Oracle of Consciousness
#83 - It's Okay to Cry
It is perfectly okay to cry!
Crying releases grief which otherwise can become stuck in your physical body!
In fact, it's okay to feel the whole gamut of emotions on the emotional tone scale, from the very highest of joy, euphoria and love, to the very lowest blame, shame and regret.
There's absolutely nothing wrong with feeling these.
What we do want to avoid is projecting our low level emotions upon others.
The challenge is to ensure that we use these emotions as a sign.
The lower level ones are often a cry for help.
They need to be investigated.
Unfortunately, if we're in denial, we will deny that I'm angry about something, or that I was responsible and that denial will trigger the impulse to project our feelings onto others.
Here we are focusing mainly on the lower-level emotions at the moment - irritability, anger guilt along the egoic subsets of separateness, superiority and fear.
We're looking at this gamut of lower-level emotions that are prevalent in our lives, the lives of other people and how to deal with them.
Projection is not going to resolve anything for anyone.
In fact, it's going to make the problem a lot more intense.
All we need to do as soon as possible, is to self-reflect,
"What is it that I'm not taking responsibility for that I am now projecting onto my partner, my business, my company, the world, politics, whatever it is?"
And... "What is this emotion trying to tell me?"
If you are angry about something, rather than projecting that anger onto somebody else, ask:
"What is this anger trying to tell me"?
As we reflect through direct self-enquiry, we go deeper and deeper into it, and at a time that is appropriate to us.
If we have been triggered, this may not be the right time to stop and reflect, although it would be preferable.
Sometimes we can't do that as we're already in a strong emotion condition and the immediate environment is not conducive to dealing with it there and then.
We may need to take a deep breath or two!
But as we become more aware and conscious, we might just be able to pull back from that and say,
"Hey sorry, wait a minute, let me rephrase that".
Then take more responsibility for our own stuff, because responsibility is the key.
Denial will drive the opportunity to project outwards, while our "stuff" is lying within and it wants to comes out to be seen, healed and let go .
We will inevitably attract people, circumstances and situations into our lives in order to resolve these emotions, as they are sitting right there within our sphere of activities.
They will arise, being triggered as a gift to be resolved.
And as we do this inner work, we clear away some of the debris that we may be carrying around with us.
We take more responsibility for it, we become more discerning, but most of all, we become more conscious, and especially conscious of our behaviours.
As these lower-level emotions arise, we can dive into them.
We can feel them deeply and ultimately, release them.
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Its okay to
cry
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Photo by Yogendra Singh on Unsplash
Its okay to be
angry
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Photo by Carlos Quintero on Unsplash
It's okay to be
irritable
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Photo by Ilona Panych on Unsplash
It's is okay to feel our emotions
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As long as we are not projecting them onto others
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They have their 'stuff', we have ours
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We take full responsibility of our 'Stuff.'
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They take responsibility for theirs
The way to do this is through the heart virtues, by being more appreciative and grateful, by being understanding, this is my journey, I understand now why I do this and why I behaved this way, to be compassionate towards myself, and I mean really compassionate.
To be forgiving, to be humble, to be brave and courageous, willing to dive in there, experience what is there, feel it, and let it go.